The bitch said I have herpes!!!!

I don't even really know how the quarrel started....oh wait...yes I do....the bitch said I have herpes!!!!!

In the beginning of course things were awkward around the ex wife.  I was living with her ex husband, in their former house, helping out with her kids.  I tried to be really careful as to not step on her toes and just kept my distance.  I also put in a pretty good effort at making things as pleasant as possible with her.  When she would come to pick up or drop off the children I would always say "Hi, how are you?" to which I would receive "Fine!" in return.  But, still things weren't that bad.  I would welcome her into the house and things were getting to the point where they weren't quite as awkward when we are all around each other.  Then one random day it all came crashing down....

I love to bake, and the children love to help me :)  Of course they would always ask to take some of the cookies they helped make, back to their moms.  We would always let them, not seeing an issue with that.  Well, one day she was in one of her "moods" and got into a huge fight with my fiancé.  Let me clarify when I say "moods."  It's suspected by my fiancé and his family members that she might be bipolar.  She is up and down, left and right so much and so fast it gives you whip-lash!!  Her biological father committed suicide when she was a young girl.  Unfortunately her mother passed away by mixing too many of the wrong substances.  She's had a tough life with a family history of mental illness.  Myself, I suffer from anxiety and have had depression in the past.  Mental/emotional illness is no joke and can be very difficult to deal with.  I received counseling for almost 10 years and still go occasionally to this day.  I was able to manage my mental illness.  I think anyone struggling with such issues should receive the help they need.  I am very empathetic to these issues.  I have no tolerance for those who do nothing about it and choose to take out their issues and aggression on the world.  Anyways on a night she was in a "mood" out of nowhere she starts accusing us of having a dirty home "because the children's socks were dirty when they came back."  She said they always throw away "those nasty cookies she bakes." AND....I have genital herpes which is how the youngest boy started to get cold sores.....REALLY BITCH?! REALLY??  Well at that point I said, that's it! I was no longer going to try to be nice, to give her any sort of credit for being a decent human being, and I lost what tiny bit of respect I had for her.  You must understand that from the very beginning she was always causing problems.  She was always mad about something.  Accusing my fiancé's family of giving her dirty looks, demanding extra money from my fiancé or she wouldn't let him see the children on extra days, things of that nature.  When she was mad she would threaten to try and raise his child support or try to take away some of his custody...I know real classy of her right?  It's not as if we are perfect, because trust me we aren't, nor do we pretend to be.  My fiancé would get mad and yell at her and argue...but he NEVER and I mean NEVER would involve the children in any sort of way.  But, that was her specialty.

I was always able to brush off her antics and not become emotionally involved in her bullshit because it was never directed towards me.  That moment that she drug me into her drama is the moment that I became emotionally involved...it's been a struggle ever since.